A religious affair!

The concept of matrimony is age old and it does not mean simply getting a wife or a husband, it means getting a life partner with whom one shares the entire life. The partner becomes your soul mate, friend, companion and confidante for the rest of your life. This holds true for any Islamic Matrimony as well. One who adheres to the Islamic religion is a true follower of Allah.

In Islam matrimony, Nikesh is carried out which is a civil contract between two people – a man and a woman. This contract is of a permanent nature which can only be dissolved by a divorce which is not easy as this contract holds a lot of sanctity.

religious affair

In Islam matrimony, a lot of preference is given to the kin. In their community, “cousins” occupy a significant place and hence they have “parallel cousin” and “cross-cousin” marriages. A lot of importance is given to the selection of suitable partners for marriages. Most of the time elders of the family or community suggest possible matrimonial alliances but now as the times are changing, boys and girls also select their life partners according to their wish.

Since the literacy rate among women is increasing in Muslims the men generally wish to have a well-educated, trustworthy, cultured, and compatible person as their life partner. Like any other community, Islam matrimony also comprises of three stages of marriage, pre-wedding, wedding and post-wedding ceremonies.

After the marriage has been fixed, the mother of the groom visits the bride’s place with sweets and gifts. She also ties a gold or silver coin on the upper portion of bride’s hand. In another ceremony, a cash gift is sent to the father of the bride after the marriage is fixed by the groom’s father. The engagement ceremony or “manganic” is observed where relatives of both sides gather and gifts, sweets, fruits, etc. are exchanged.

During the ‘Manjra’ ceremony, the bride is given yellow clothes to wear and turmeric is applied on her body to make her look more beautiful. The Mehndi ceremony is a very important occasion in the Islam matrimony wherein henna is applied on the hands and feet of the bride.

The groom’s family then sends ‘Sencha’ for the bride to use during the Nikesh which includes clothes and jewelry. The wedding dress for the bride is a very beautiful and attractive ‘Sahara’ along with a skirt and blouse and a dupatta to cover the head.

During the wedding, the groom arrives at bride’s house with much fanfare. He is accompanied by a procession including friends, relatives and family members with a lot of music and dance. A glass of sherbet is drunk by the groom and the brother of the bride. During Nikesh, the bride dresses in the clothes and jeweler sent by groom’s family.

A Moulid or a priest conducts the Nikesh ceremony and a Quiz (law officer) is also present during the ceremony. Two men are also appointed as witnesses. Besides them, the two ‘Wallis’ (fathers’ of the bride and the groom respectively) are also present.

The father of the bride is present to protect his daughter’s rights and the father of the groom stands as the witness to endorse that right. In Islam matrimony, the custom of “mohair” is mandatory which is given to the bride as a nuptial gift by the groom’s family.

Verses from Quran are read by the Mauve and then the I jab-e-Qumbu or acceptance of proposal takes place. Later the proposal of the groom has to be accepted by the bride. Mutual consent of both the bride and the groom is very important for the marriage to be legalized. After the proposal has been accepted, the couple signs the “nikah Nama”.

After the wedding has taken place, a sumptuous feast is laid out and the newlyweds sit together. Dupatta is used to cover their heads and the Quran and a mirror is kept between them. They are allowed to see each other in the mirror only. Later, the farewell of bride takes place after seeking blessings from the elders. About Author: Author writes on behalf of the popular matrimony site JeevanSaathi.com. The matrimonial site assists you to find a perfect match for you in the respective community like Muslim matrimony and other communities

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